Thursday, November 23, 2006
Holidays
What is so important about holidays, especially Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's? Well for one thing it is a time for relatives and friends to get together to "enjoy" each others' company. A time for sharing what has happened in each others lives since the last get together. It is a time for bonding, fussing, being kind to someone who you don't like, being able to see the ones that you do like, that may not really like you. In todays world of honestly, really, how much do we need to pretend in order to be "acceptable"? In my personal opinion, why waste time with those who could care less about you? Why not be honest about how you feel so you can spend what little time we have on this earth with the ones we really do care about? I love my wife very much and care about her dearly. I love my children and siblings, and miss them. I wish I could spend more time at home including time with my wife, children, pets, and siblings, but reality and having to pay bills have me working a job away from home for a week at at time. So, if you cannot be honest with me, and be a true friend, then don't waste our time. I have so little of it to spare. However, if you can be a true friend, please let me know, and I will make every effort to be a true friend to you.
Saturday, November 18, 2006
What about me will they remember?
Ever wonder what people would remember about you when you leave this world? I have often wondered if I made a good impression and made a positive influence on anyone. Have you ever wondered about that?
My concern is not only what people remember about me when I am no longer living, I worry about what they think about me while I am living. I don't worry about it to the extent that it has an impact on my happiness and well being, but it is in the back of my mind. I am sure that others have the same thoughts cross their mind. The following questions come to mind along this line.
Will they remember me as a negative or a positive influence in their life?
Did I do anything that improved their life?
Was I helpful to them in any way?
Was I approachable and amiable?
Did I turn my back on anyone in need?
Did I reach out and help someone truly in need and make their life better?
How will I be remembered, or will I be remembered at all?
Was I helpful and supportive of my family and friends?
Did I make every effort to be me and help anyone I spoke with to be themself?
Well, I am sure that these questions are part of others' thoughts and if not, I am sure that this blog entry has made you think.
How do you remember me? If you have read this blog and feel that you want to make a comment about me, good or bad, please let me know. It would be nice to know how I am remembered, before the day comes that I move on to the other side.
My concern is not only what people remember about me when I am no longer living, I worry about what they think about me while I am living. I don't worry about it to the extent that it has an impact on my happiness and well being, but it is in the back of my mind. I am sure that others have the same thoughts cross their mind. The following questions come to mind along this line.
Will they remember me as a negative or a positive influence in their life?
Did I do anything that improved their life?
Was I helpful to them in any way?
Was I approachable and amiable?
Did I turn my back on anyone in need?
Did I reach out and help someone truly in need and make their life better?
How will I be remembered, or will I be remembered at all?
Was I helpful and supportive of my family and friends?
Did I make every effort to be me and help anyone I spoke with to be themself?
Well, I am sure that these questions are part of others' thoughts and if not, I am sure that this blog entry has made you think.
How do you remember me? If you have read this blog and feel that you want to make a comment about me, good or bad, please let me know. It would be nice to know how I am remembered, before the day comes that I move on to the other side.
Wednesday, November 01, 2006
I don't HATE anyone, do you?
My Mother ingrained in my mind that the "HATE" word is too harsh a word to be a part of my vocabulary. There are very rare occassions when you will hear me use the word. Hate is something that we could do without on this planet. If you can find a way to remove it from your vocabulary and mind you will become a much better person overall.
When I was around five years old I got really upset with someone and was telling my Mother how much I HATED that person. She sat me down at the kitchen table, which is where we had a lot of heart to heart chats, and she begain to explain to me why "HATE" is such a harsh word.
When you "HATE" someone, you despise everything about them, not just the way they are, but the physical person they are, everything about them, including where they come from, and anything related to them. "HATE" is a very strong feeling to have, and you have to identify if you really feel "HATE" before you use that word.
She asked me why I thought I "HATED" this person and I explained. When I was done, she said, "Well, Rick, you don't HATE this person, you just don't like their ways. There is a big difference between HATE and not liking a person's ways."
Every since that conversation with my Mother, I have never really "HATED" anyone. I realize that I just don't like the way that some people are. When I don't like their ways, I just don't associate myself with them.
I believe that everyone has a right to their own feelings and being the best person they can be. If they choose to be jerks, that is their choice, it just means that I don't have to be around them.
It would be nice though to see a lot more LOVE in the world and less HATE. We are all on this planet together, so why can't we all get along, and agree to disagree once in a while?
When I was around five years old I got really upset with someone and was telling my Mother how much I HATED that person. She sat me down at the kitchen table, which is where we had a lot of heart to heart chats, and she begain to explain to me why "HATE" is such a harsh word.
When you "HATE" someone, you despise everything about them, not just the way they are, but the physical person they are, everything about them, including where they come from, and anything related to them. "HATE" is a very strong feeling to have, and you have to identify if you really feel "HATE" before you use that word.
She asked me why I thought I "HATED" this person and I explained. When I was done, she said, "Well, Rick, you don't HATE this person, you just don't like their ways. There is a big difference between HATE and not liking a person's ways."
Every since that conversation with my Mother, I have never really "HATED" anyone. I realize that I just don't like the way that some people are. When I don't like their ways, I just don't associate myself with them.
I believe that everyone has a right to their own feelings and being the best person they can be. If they choose to be jerks, that is their choice, it just means that I don't have to be around them.
It would be nice though to see a lot more LOVE in the world and less HATE. We are all on this planet together, so why can't we all get along, and agree to disagree once in a while?
